Is there someone that you struggle to love?
Here’s how to love someone with no strings attached.
Welcome to Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast, where my mother-in-law, relationship expert and master certified coach, LeAnn Austin, will help you create more love and connection with your daughter-in-law and everyone else you care about.
Hey y’all, you’re listening to Lovin My Daughter-in-law, Episode #91: Unconditional Love
What do you think of when you hear the term unconditional love?
My mind immediately goes to God and Jesus. I believe that they love each one of us, no matter what. I also think about my boys, my daughters-in-law, my husband, my parents, and my brothers.
This is my family, and I love them unconditionally, no strings attached. Now, with that said, I don’t always like the things that they do, but I do love them.
Unconditional love is when you love someone no matter what they do, and you have no expectation of repayment. Is there someone that you love unconditionally? Or that loves you unconditionally?
I heard a quote from Natalie Clay years ago that is still one of my very favorites. She said: “Of all the emotions you can choose to feel, love feels the very best.”
So, if love feels so good, why don’t we consciously choose to feel love more often? Instead, we choose to feel disappointment, frustration, or anger. We often have expectations of people, and when they don’t live up to those expectations, we use that as an excuse to feel bad.
Basically, we create rules that set us up to feel negative emotions instead of love. We act as though we don’t have control over how we feel towards someone else, and that their actions control how we feel. But that’s not how life works. Our thoughts about other people’s actions determine how we feel. So, of course, when we choose negative thoughts, then we will feel negative emotions.
This is so good to know. This means we can feel love whenever we want. Unconditional love is not just for a few, it is for anyone who chooses to feel love.
Now you may be thinking, wait a minute LeAnn, you don’t know my daughter-in-law. She has taken away my son and my grandkids. She’s mean. She doesn’t know how to cook. And the list goes on and on and on of things that she’s doing “wrong”.
But I want you to know, your choice to not feel love is only hurting you. Nothing that your daughter-in-law or anyone does or doesn’t do, can ever deny you the feeling of love. We get to choose how we feel about other people regardless of how they treat us.
Byron Katie shares a quote I like to use with my family now and then. “I love you, and there’s nothing you can do about it.”
In November, our focus will be on unconditional love. By the end of the month, you will know how to feel love for that person you’ve struggled to even remotely like for years. So join us in Lovin My Daughter-in-law program. This is a beautiful community of people strengthening their relationships with others and themselves, as well as their mental and emotional muscles. More info HERE
With the holidays fast approaching, knowing how to love unconditionally will create so much more fun and connection with family and friends, rather than dread, frustration, and eggshell walking. Look forward to seeing you in Lovin My Daughter-in-law community.
And remember, you don’t have to have a daughter-in-law to join. This program will help you strengthen your relationship with anyone, including yourself.
Brené Brown says, “It’s one of the constant challenges of being a human, to love ourselves wildly and gently and unconditionally.” Hmm, something to think about.
Come work with me and I’ll teach you a variety of ways to feel more love for yourself, your daughter-in-law, and anyone else you care about.
Have a good one y’all, and here’s to unconditional love. If this podcast resonates with you, share it with a friend and leave a review.
If you enjoyed this podcast, check out LeAnn’s Lovin My Daughter-in-law Program, where she coaches and teaches a variety of ways to have more fun and connection in our relationships.
LeAnn also shares the five secrets she uses to create a beautiful relationship with me and her other daughter-in-law. She’s the real deal. I highly recommend you check this out.
And, if you want one easy question you can keep in your back pocket and use to increase the love you feel for your daughter in law today, go to leannaustin.com and get the one question.
