How do you like your eggs?
You’re listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you’ll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I’m your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y’all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number seven: Your Favorite Egg
I’m a big Julia Roberts fan. And some of you may remember the movie Runaway Bride, where Julia, acting as Maggie, would decide what kind of egg she liked based on the guy she was dating at the time. Whatever kind of eggs he liked, would then become what she liked. Julia/Maggie didn’t even know what kind of eggs she liked because she was always doing what, whoever she was dating, wanted to do or what they liked. Soon she forgot what she really liked.
Well, this came up recently in my Lovin Me Program, when a member realized she was doing something because she thought it would make someone else happy, but it wasn’t what she wanted at all. I noticed I used to do this with my boys, when we were picking where we’d go out to eat. I’d always go where they wanted to go, and I rarely went where I wanted to go. Which is fine sometimes, but it is also okay, and loving to ourselves, when we do what we want.
So just a few questions to ask yourself:
Have you ever said yes, when you really wanted to say no?
Do you tell little lies to avoid hurt feelings or to smooth things over?
Do you apologize often, and for things you have no control over?
Do you do things for others so they will like you?
Do you pretend to agree with people, even though you feel differently?
Do you neglect your own needs in order to do things for others?
Do you worry about what other people might think?
Or do you fill your schedule with activities that you think other people want you to do?
This is called people pleasing y’all, and it isn’t love at all. It’s actually lying, lying to yourself and lying to others. When we continue pushing our own needs to the side, it makes it hard to acknowledge them and recognize what we really feel and what we love.
Sometimes loving is saying no. Loving is recognizing what is true for you and honoring that. Love is not at your own expense. Now that doesn’t mean we don’t choose to do things we don’t necessarily want for others, but we do it from love, not from lying.
One of my favorite quotes by Lisa TerKeurst says, “Whenever you say yes to something, there is less of you for something else, make sure your yes is worth the less.”
Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y’all and here’s to love.
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