Tiffany Wade shares some beautiful love insights…..everything from the cochlea, her mother-in-law, finding the lesson, and Amavi Vici~
If you’re ready to be more curious amidst whatever your life experiences, take a listen.
Learn more about Tiffany here: https://www.tiffanystreamwade.biz/
You’re listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you’ll discover a small, tasty, delightful bite-sided tidbit of love ~ I’m your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y’all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #68: Curiosity with Tiffany Wade
I love observing and connecting with other humans, especially noting how they feel and implement love into their lives.
We have the amazing Tiffany Wade sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright Tiff, briefly introduce yourself.
Hey LeAnn, thanks for having me. I am so excited to be on here and share a few things and kind of talk with you about some amazing things about love. So my name’s Tiffany Wade. All of my accounts are under Tiffany Stream Wade, so people might know me from that as well. I specialize in relationship loss coaching, so I help those who are currently navigating divorce and relationship loss. Maybe people who feel stuck to try and flip their perspective on a few things, and enable them to kind of move forward and find their path forward.
Awesome, I love it. So glad to have you here with us. Alright, so I’m gonna ask you five questions and we’ll start with number one. How do you incorporate love into your business and or your life?
I love this question and I think my answer for both would be the same and its curiosity. So a desire to know or understand, I believe, is at the very center of every place love shows up in our lives. Whether it’s career, relationship, self-love, which you are an expert in, you know, it replaces judgment, and when that happens, possibility for well all possibility, it makes room for all possibility. And that opens up and we can replace judgment with curiosity.
So to love someone, whether it’s ourselves, a client, or someone that we’re pursuing a relationship with, to love them we first need to know them. And that, I believe, starts with interest. That starts with a curiosity. To love the world around us, that starts with interest too. And so when we can start with and come from a place of curiosity instead of judgment, which is ego-based, curiosity opens up possibility. So I think for both maybe what I do, but also how I show up and facilitate and navigate relationships, it all starts with curiosity.
I think that is my favorite feeling to go to when I notice that coming up for me, like if curiosity or fascination just with it is key. I love that you incorporate that into everything, because that’s amazing, yeah.
You know there’s a quote that I love. I’m sure many have heard it that says, “Being heard and being loved. That feeling is so similar that for the average person, it’s indistinguishable.” So when we can listen to people out of curiosity because we have a desire to know, instead of maybe through filters of judgment, that just puts both people in a place to feel love. Love exists. The possibility of love can come in.
Through that curiosity. Oh, so good. Alright, number two: what is something you love about you and why?
I don’t know that I could have answered this question a few years ago, and I’m grateful I can now, and I think the answer would be the same.
I love that I can be curious enough, in every aspect of life, to find the lesson in everything. Find the lesson in things. I came to the conclusion several years ago going through some trauma. I can face the world with the attitude of life is happening to me, or I can face the world with the attitude of life is happening for me. And I came to the conclusion that the latter made me feel happier.
So to approach the world that way, I found lessons in things. There had to be lessons in things. If everything that was going on was for my benefit, and there were things in there for me, that meant I had to examine things and be observant of things, and not just take things at face value, but understand that there are lessons in those things for me, specifically for me.
So I like that about myself. I like that I can be observant. I like that there are things that are aha moments for me, some things that I would never expect. Learning the anatomy of the ear and why our cochlea is shaped like it is, that that was a life lesson for me and it didn’t have anything to do with the anatomy, so to speak. But, you know, that shape doesn’t have any purpose in our ear. If you rolled it out flat, you would hear the exact same. The only function is to be sensitive to lower vibration.
And so when we are faced with experiences in life that we feel like we’re coming back around to the same problems every single time. When we give ourselves a hard time thinking my word, I just cannot get over this one thing. Maybe it’s just that we’re being more sensitive to things and aware of things, and we can use those tools that we’ve gained in between the times that we faced the thing to kind of level up and move past it a little quicker, a little easier. And that all came about because I was curious about that spiral shape. So things like that, just being curious and finding the lessons in things.
That is so beautiful and just the fact that you recognize wait, I wouldn’t have seen this a few years ago, but now I do. And I love that about me, and I love that about you too. You’ve been through some tough stuff, and I love that you find the lesson in everything that you encounter, that’s amazing. Alright, number three. I love talking all things daughter-in-law, as you know, and any thoughts that you have about either being or having a daughter-in-law?
While I don’t have any daughter-in-laws yet, I am a daughter-in-law and I have a fantastic mother-in-law. I love her. When I first became a part of that family, It became very clear very quickly, that the difference between the family I grew up in and this family were stark. And it was a little intense for me to go into a family that was so different than mine. But she never made me feel like an outsider. And she never put expectation on me to fall in line and get a part of the program.
There was a real intention on being curious, again that word, about who I was. She wanted to learn what kind of family I came from, what my relationship was with my parents and my siblings. What was important to me, what made me happy, what made me sad, all you know, what I was passionate about. She was so intentional on doing those things. And again, it goes back to I felt heard. I felt that she, it wasn’t just okay, you’re a part of this family now, this is what we do and this is how you need to be. I felt listened to and I felt heard and I felt like I had a place, and I felt like no matter what, she was interested and glad I was there.
And that isn’t the case with all in-law relationships, and I didn’t know that. I’m the oldest in my family, and so I was the first one to get married. And I’m grateful to have that relationship, and I’m grateful that she interacted with me like that and has continued to do that, because it made all the difference. You know, instead of coming from a place of expectation, she really came from a place of curiosity and wanting to get to know and love me, and accept me for those things, not try to mold me to fit into her current family.
I love that so much and what a lesson for all us mother-in-laws to be like wait, just let our daughters-in-law be who they are, and just whatever that is and get to know them and that curiosity that is beautiful.
Okay, anything else that you’d like to share? And where can our audience go to find out more about you? Oh gosh. I could probably, there are a lot of things that I’m passionate about talking about. Love is one of them and I am grateful for all of the work you do. I think that there are a lot of things on my website that people could go and find out a little more on, and that is tiffanystreamwade.biz. That kind of outlines generally what I’m about and some ways that people can find out who they truly are at their core level.
And I guess the only other thing that I would add is that the world, kind of as we go through life, the world kind of tends to tell us who we are. You know, we’re wife, we’re mom, we’re whatever we do for a career, we’re whatever responsibilities that we have, and that’s not who we are. And learning to get back to who we truly are and those core values, and be able to understand that that’s kind of the gas that we’ve been given coming to this life, and that it’s up to us to create the vehicle that would be best for that gas, for that fuel. That is fundamental, I believe, to going through life with success.
I agree, and I’ll also put that, your information in the show notes and follow Tiffany on social media. She is an amazing writer and has so many fun things that she shares, videos and everything. So highly recommend following her. Alright, last question, what is your favorite quote about love?
This is my favorite question that you asked, because this phrase got me through a lot of hard times. I have it on everything. I have it on my phone case. If I ever get a tattoo, this is probably what it’s gonna be. That’s awesome. But the phrase is “Amavi Vici” which means we love, we conquer. We love, we conquer. When we come from a place of love, when we deal with things from love, when we interact from love, not for love, it expands our focus. It expands our perspectives. It takes the blinders off, and I love that.
Love’s not always passive. Sometimes love’s a fight. Sometimes love means throwing up boundaries. Sometimes love is not easy and calm and passive, but we love, we conquer. Simple as that.
I love that. We love, we conquer. Hmm, something to think about. Thank you Tiffany, for sharing your tidbits of love with us.
Have a good one y’all, and here’s to curiosity and love.
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