Are you ready to make the big leap? Listen to Hendrix’s tips to make this happen.
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Hey y’all, welcome to Love Tidbits, Episode #38: The Big Leap
I just finished reading The Big Leap by Gay Hendrix, and highly recommend it. Hendrix starts the book stating that his desire is to remove your last obstacle to ultimate success in wealth, work and love. I’m very interested when someone tells me a way to remove an obstacle from my ultimate success, so I read the book.
Now the one problem that holds us back, Hendrick says, is called the upper limit problem. And he’s never met anyone who didn’t suffer from it, at least a little bit. So the upper limit problem is this basic pattern: enjoy a period of feeling really good; then do something to mess it up.
Most of the world operates like this, enjoy a period of peace, then plunge into war, create a time of economic expansion, then go into recession or depression. So there’s lots of evidence of this pattern.
How do we solve the upper limit problem? Hendrick suggests asking ourselves these questions:
Am I willing to increase the amount of time every day that I feel good inside?
Am I willing to take the big leap to my ultimate level of success in love, money, and creative contribution?
How much love and abundance am I willing to allow?
How am I getting in my own way?
Really, the only relevant question, is whether you will let it be a possibility for you. If you’re willing to accept the possibility that things can go well all or most of the time, then you’re on your way to making that happen.
Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old familiar zone where we feel secure. One of the biggest drivers of the upper limit problem is a false belief that says, I’m fundamentally flawed and don’t deserve success.
If you have a deep old feeling that there’s something wrong, bad, or flawed about you, you will find yourself grappling with that issue every time you break through to greater love and financial abundance. When you surpass your upper limit thermostat setting, a little voice in your mind will say, You should not be happy or rich or creative because you are fundamentally flawed. This thought creates cognitive dissonance, the mind rattle that occurs when you try to hold two opposing thoughts at the same time. Given that I’m fundamentally flawed or wrong or bad, how can I possibly be this happy or rich or creative?
The cognitive dissonance must be resolved in one of two ways Hendrick says: by returning to your previous thermostat setting, or by letting go of the old limiting belief, which allows you to stabilize at the new higher level. Now the best way to shine the light of awareness on the thought that you are fundamentally flawed, and label it as what it is.
It’s an upper limit bug. Hendrick uses bug in two senses here. It’s like a computer bug because it’s a false line in your code that causes a breakdown in your operating efficiency. And it’s like a bug in the mosquito sense too, because it bites you when you’re going to higher levels of love, abundance, and creativity. You start slapping at the bug and bringing yourself back down to your previous level, and then guess what? The bug wins and you lose.
If you want to eliminate your upper limit problem, simply be aware that it’s there. Hendrick says, you dissolve the upper limit problem by shining a light of awareness, the false foundations that hold your upper limit problems in place. When you shine the light of awareness, you then are free to soar and explore.
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To sum up, one of my favorite quotes by Hendrix is: “The essential move we all need to master is learning to handle more positive energy, success, and love. Instead of focusing on the past, we need to increase our tolerance for things going well in our lives now. If we don’t learn how to do this, we suffer in every area of our lives.” Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y’all ~ and here’s to taking the big leap and to love!
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