Jalyn de Moors is a singer, performer, and recording artist.
Her voice and wisdom blew me away! Take a listen and check her out HERE
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I’m LeAnn Austin, boy mom and teacher turned master certified life coach, who once had all the feelings when cute girlies started dating my sons. I had to learn a lot about love, boundaries, and connection, not just with my daughters-in-law, but with myself. That’s how Lovin My Daughter-in-law was born.
So if you’re craving more love, connection, and fun in your life, especially the kind that starts from within, this podcast is for you.
Today’s episode #196: The Privilege of Love with Jalyn de Moors
I love observing and connecting with other humans, especially noting how they feel and implement love into their lives and their relationships.
We have the amazing Jalyn sharing some beautiful love and relationship insights with us today. Alright Jalyn, tell us a little bit about you.
Thank you LeAnn. I am so happy to be here with you today. I’m so excited to talk about love and relationships, and so thank you for this invitation. My name is Jalyn de Moors. I am a recording artist based in Atlanta, Georgia. I have been singing and performing professionally for over 10 years, and I also started a coaching business just a few years ago so that I could pour into the next generation of singers, performers, and I love seeing people grow in their music and their confidence. So music is something that I’m incredibly passionate about and I’m fortunate to be able to have it as my career.
Oh my goodness. I love that so much. I had the blessing and opportunity of hearing Jalyn recently. Oh it blew me out of the water. Her music, her voice is amazing. So if you get to listen to it, go listen to her. And I love that you’re coaching too. I had no idea you were doing that as well. So what a beautiful combination. I love it. Thank you. So cool.
Alright, so tell us, how do you incorporate love into your business and life, and how does that impact your relationships? Yeah, that’s such a great question. So I believe that most things start with self-love, right? The way that I incorporate love into my business and life in general, is by loving myself first.
And that can look like so many different ways. When I first started my coaching business about four years ago, for example, I wasn’t sure how to go about sharing the material. Or sometimes when you talk about money, it’s like, oh, do I charge really low prices? Or, what is my value on that.
But the more that I learned about my own personal value, the more that I learned the importance of offering a service that you know in your heart is valuable. And so that’s when my business started to transform, when I actually knew my worth and that when I knew what I was offering was special and needed and valued.
That’s when the clients started to come. That’s when a lot of opportunities started to come, and it all stemmed from that self-love that I had in within myself. And I think that it’s important to really focus on that and to grow that self-love, because it can be easy to put our identity, you know, in someone else’s pocket or say, okay, this is someone else’s responsibility to love me or to to see my value.
And I’ve been on the other end of wanting that. I’ve been on the other end of hoping that someone, you know, would love me and all of these things, but when I started to really love myself, my business started to grow. My relationships were stronger because I wasn’t necessarily relying on anyone else, and I just saw everyone else’s love as a bonus, right? Because I love myself first.
Yes. This is gold. I love this so much. Self-love. I mean, I’m so grateful that you teach that, and that you share that, and that you’ve experienced that on both ends of it. Beautiful because it does make a difference. I think often we think, wait, no, we gotta love all the other people. No. If we love ourselves first, then it’s so much easier to connect and love all the other people. Beautiful. Yes. 100%.
So tell me something that you love about you and why. Hmm, you know, something that I love that I’ve always been this way. I remember when I was young, I was probably around eight or nine years old, and I had this vision in my head of, and just bear with me, I was only eight years old, but I had envisioned myself holding this basket of fruit, right? And I envisioned myself walking around these villages overseas helping people and feeding people and trying to solve this hunger crisis.
And so even at a young age, I was always looking for opportunities to serve. I saw a need and I wanted to help people. And so, you know, that desire to serve has carried through these last few decades, and it’s really come through my music and I am so blessed to be able to sing and perform. And I see it as a service. Yes, I truly see it as a service.
And before any performance, whether I’m singing in front of a crowd of 50 people or a crowd of 20,000 people, before I step on that stage, I just say a quick prayer and I pray that I will be a vessel, right? I pray that I’ll be a vessel for God. I pray that I’ll be able to be of service for those people who need it.
And you know, there’s usually a few people who will come up to me after the performance or call me or send a text, you know, maybe on Instagram and they’ll say, man, you know, your music really touched me, or I really felt so much love. And that is the biggest reason of, is why I sing. It’s because of that service. It’s because of the love that I have for life, the love that I have for love, right? And spreading that, and so I love that.
I have always been focused on service, and I think going back to your first question, How do you incorporate love into business and relationships? I think that you can have both, right? That self love and that love for others. And I truly think that love first starts from within because your love for others just grows exponentially when you do love yourself. So yeah, serving others is such a special part of my life.
That’s so beautiful and I could feel it. Like, I love that you recognize and that that is your focus to serve others, because I mean, back to the basic commandments, love thy neighbor as thyself. We’re talking about others and ourselves, like you are meshing that together so beautifully. I love that Jalyn. So thank you.
So, I love talking about connection with others and ourselves, like we’ve said, and I think that the daughter-in-law relationship is packed full of examples for us to learn from. So any thoughts about the mother-in-law, daughter-in-law relationship that you’d like to share?
Yeah. You know, I am a daughter-in-law myself, so I have a mother-in-law and it’s a relationship that I’m still figuring out. And I think she’s figuring out too. I’m sure that that many people with an in-law, or with a mother-in-law, or who’s a daughter-in-law or, you know, may also be in the same boat.
And, I wish I had all the answers, but what I would say is that what you pour into the relationship is what you get out of the relationship. And I think it’s a two way, like tandem group effort, right? One person can’t be, you know, pouring more and the other one’s not. It’s an equal partnership.
I think if you imagine a flower and a flower pot, I think that you too can set the expectations of how you want that flower to grow and how you want it to look like. And so I think that while I’m still figuring it out, I know that other relationships that I have, outside of my mother-in-law, they either thrive or they, you know, fall apart based on how much we pour into them.
And so, I think that it really just comes down to the effort that you put in and being honest with your feelings. Yes. And sometimes that’s not easy. Sometimes that’s not easy at all. And to be vulnerable, and to be honest and share your heart. I think that if you have a mother-in-law who’s willing to listen. Then be open about those things and hopefully you’re a daughter-in-law who’s also open to hear maybe suggestions on how your relationship can get, can get stronger, right?
I think that relationships in general require honesty and vulnerability, and loving criticism, if you will, right? Loving criticism, maybe there’s a better word for it, but I think that what you pour into it, you know, you get out of it, and hopefully the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law have that desire to be closer. You know what I mean? Because if one isn’t, then it may just not be the thriving relationship that it could be, right? Yep, so what you pour in, you get out of it.
I love that, what you pour in, you get out. And the flower example, just thinking of that because that is a relationship that is gonna kind of, I don’t wanna say waffle, but we don’t know. I mean, we’ll just keep going through life doing it. So I think that is the honesty, the vulnerability, the being willing to share: Hey, you’re kind of ticking me off right now, or whatever. You know, and knowing that’s okay, because when you do have that connection where you feel like you can show up as you, that is gold. And just being willing to pour that in, even though mother-in-law may not like it, or she may not be listening to it, or whatever. Right. So definitely, yeah. So good. I love that. Yeah.
You know, one more thing that I would add with that is I think it’s okay to ask for help, right? Yes. If you’re wondering, Hey, how do I go about talking to my mother-in-law, or maybe your mother-in-law saying, how do I go about talking to my daughter-in-law about these things? I think it’s okay to ask for help, right? Ask for help from others. Daughter-in-laws or mother-in-laws, or your therapist, or a close friend that you trust, say, Hey, what is this experience like for you and how do you go about navigating these things.
Because I often feel like I have to have everything figured out, or know everything. But the truth is, you don’t have to know everything. It’s okay to be a student. It’s okay to not know everything, and to learn as vulnerable as it is, it’s hard being the new kid in the class or it’s hard, you know, learning a completely new subject. But that’s where the growth happens. And so, when you don’t know something, again, I think it’s okay to ask for help.
I am so glad you brought that up, ’cause that’s what we do in my membership Connection Crew, is talking about the relationships, whatever they are, mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, or any relationship. When you’re willing to talk about it and figure out: Hey, where am I at and how can I ask for help? It makes all the difference in the world. Yeah. Connecting both with yourself and with whoever you want to get closer to. Yes, so good.
So is there anything else that you wanna share and where can our audience go to find out more about you? Yeah. So for those of you who wanna follow along my musical journey, you can go to the link in the show notes HERE, and there you can find a link to all of my music.
You can also find a link to contact me personally and, you can inquire about a performance or, if you want to get into coaching, that’s where you can contact me directly. I love that. And follow and contact Jalyn, she’s amazing. So yes, I highly encourage that. And if you get to hear her music go ’cause it is so beautiful!
So tell me what is your favorite quote about love and how have you used it for yourself and in your relationships?
So, my favorite quote about love is: “What a privilege it is to love and be loved.” Truly love is a privilege. And I think in relationships there are high moments and there are low moments. I’ve personally learned that some of the low moments are caused because of the love that you have for maybe this other person, right. And I think that when you love, your leaving yourself open to the good, the not so great, and sometimes the messy.
Recently my, this past summer, just a few months ago, my father actually passed away unexpectedly. And I’ve been thinking about our relationship, and all of the things that he did for me. And I was like, man, you know, this pain that he’s gone, is so great, and it’s because my love for him is so great, right. The pain that he’s gone is because of the love that I have for him.
And I thought, man, what a privilege it is to love, right? And as painful as it can be, I think that it truly is a privilege, you know? I think that life would be pretty bleak and pretty sad if we didn’t have love, even though love comes with grief, right?
Love comes with hardships. Love comes with unexpected challenges. Whether that’s with a friend that we love, or a partner that we love, or a child that we love, or, you know, sometimes we may let our own selves down because we’re not perfect. And so love in all forms is a privilege, right? That ability to feel love, that ability to feel joy, that ability to feel that pain, right? For someone who you’ve lost, it’s because you have loved. And so what I do almost every day is I set an intention for my day. And so anyone that I come in contact with, I say, you know what, even if this is the last time, you know that I see this person, I want them to feel loved.
I want to have a beautiful day, full of love, full of joy, and unexpected miracles. And so I think love can truly be the driving factor for all that we do. Love for ourselves, our partners, love in our business, and all of those dealings and so forth. So, we can remember that right? Love is a privilege. It’s a privilege to love and be loved.
Oh my goodness Jalyn, and I’m so sorry about your dad, I can’t imagine how difficult that is. I do love how you’ve tied in love so much to it, and the privilege of that. Like love is just, I think it’s one of the best emotions to feel.
And it’s not perfect, you know, it’s messy and it’s all the things. Yeah. I love that you brought that up because there’s so much to that, and what a privilege it is to love and be loved. Hmmm, something to think about.
So beautiful. Thank you Jalyn, for sharing your love insights with us today. So grateful you could join us and be here, thank you. Of course LeAnn, it was an absolute privilege. I’ve loved being able to talk to you today about love and all of those good things. So, thank you so much. It’s an honor. Ah, mine as well. Thank you.
Well, here is to self-love to, the privilege of being loved, to honesty, to vulnerability, to connection, and again to love. Have a good one y’all.
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