Do you focus on the what to be done rather than the who?
Take a listen for why the who is more important.
Welcome to Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast. I’m relationship expert and master certified coach LeAnn Austin. I’ll help you create more connection and fun with others, especially your daughter-in-law.
Hey y’all, you’re listening to Lovin My Daughter-in-law, episode #134: Who vs What
I love talking about connection with others and ourselves, and I think the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law relationship is packed full of endless examples to learn from. So whether you have a mother-in-law, a daughter-in-law, or neither one, everything I share on this podcast can be applied to any relationship.
I enjoy listening to podcasts, even though there are way more than I have time for. I was listening to Sara Payne’s podcast that’s called Rock Solid Relationships that I highly recommend. And she was talking about hearing this from author Greg McKeown’s podcast. So, I’m not sure who to give credit to, but I think this message is impactful and will help you in your relationships.
This one sentence will create more connection and fun in your relationships than you ever imagined. So here it is. Focus more on the who then the what. You may be like, wait a minute LeAnn, what do you even mean?
Who emphasizes personal qualities, character traits, values, basically the essence of the individual.
What are the tasks we do, external stuff and material aspects.
So when we focus on the who, noticing values, qualities, and character traits, rather than the what, the tasks we do and the external stuff, it changes everything. Who is much more important than what.
Jeff and I have been empty nesters for a couple of years now, and no longer have to worry about the whats of which one of us is taking which boy to which event. Now our what focus is more on jobs, church, family, friends, and household stuff.
It’s so easy to focus on the tasks that need to be accomplished rather than the who. Like, who is this incredible man I’m married to? It was so tender yesterday as I sat and watched Jeff play with our grandbaby. It reminded me of countless hours. He spent playing with and teaching our boys when they were little. I felt so much love for him as I paused and noticed who he is rather than what he’s doing. Who he is as a husband, a dad, a grandpa, a son, a brother, an uncle, and a friend.
Try this with someone you care about. Focus on who they are as a person rather than what they’re doing or not doing. It’s so easy to forget the who and focus on the what needs to be done. I challenge you to pick one person in your life and switch the focus from what to who they truly are. Of course we can’t do this all the time, and there are lots of whats to be done, but don’t forget the who that’s right in front of you.
C. Tang said, “It’s not that people change, it’s that you finally see them for who they truly are.” Hmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y’all, and here’s to who, connection and love.
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