Wanting People to Do Things My Way

I keep noticing that I want people to be different. Today we are going to visit my brother. We will be driving. My schedule is free so I can leave as soon as my husband finishes work. This morning I assumed he would pack so we can leave the minute he is done with work. I didn't say this to him. But, he said on his own, "I'm going to pack when I get home today and then we can leave." I said, "Oh, I thought you'd pack now so we can leave as soon as you're done with work." He said that wasn't his plan and he was going to do it later. I accepted that this is how it would be, but I kept thinking about it all morning. I know it's not a big deal, but I still feel stuck on this thought, "My plan is perfect. He should have packed this morning. I like my plan better than his." Those thoughts are making me feel frustration and like something has gone wrong since he didn't do things the way I think they should have been done. This same pattern is happening at work in a group project. Other people are working on it, but I don't always like what they're doing. I am not their boss so I don't feel like I have any control over the situation. Since I know I can't change them, what can I do to feel less of an urge or pressure to fix something in these scenarios?