Feeling Bitter

I notice I'm disempowering myself. I feel bitter about my in-laws. I had surgery last week (that has taken us 3 months of preparation). We had the courage to tell my in-laws about the surgery and the process and they never once asked about how I was handling everything. When I came out of anesthesia, my husband texted his parents to tell them I was out of surgery. They responded to his text and talked about other things, but did not acknowledge the surgery at all. They didn't ask how I was feeling. Of course, getting ready for this surgery has been life-altering and time-consuming. A few weeks ago, when we were on the phone with his dad, we said, "Well with surgery this month..." and his dad said, "What surgery?" This irks me a ton! I feel so frustrated that they seem so insensitive. Then, on Sunday, my brother-in-law called my husband and said, "We're coming for a surprise visit tomorrow and you'll need to get a pack n play for our baby and we'll arrive hungry so please have dinner ready." They also know that I was 2 days post surgery on Sunday. I would have loved for them to say, "We know your wife just had surgery. Is it ok if we spend the night? Can we bring a meal for you?" Then, they ended up sleeping in two different bedrooms so when they left Tuesday, my brother-in-law said, "Oh by the way you'll need to wash the sheets from both beds because we slept in different rooms." I was frustrated that they didn't offer to take the sheets off because the night before I told them about the pain I was experiencing and how I was unable to stretch, bend, or lift. The story in my brain is "My in-laws are incredibly insensitive and I don't want them in my life because thinking about them and wishing for them to be different causes me so much pain."